a real man

tonight i watched "it's a wonderful life" and promptly fell in love.

On the difference between Men and Boys.
I would like to say that there is a large one.
I believe I mentioned the other day that I was reading Mindy Kaling's book, "Is Everyone Hanging Out Without  Me? (And Other Concerns).
It was her title that sold me. For some reason I love the word "concern". In any form or variation. When I use it, it gives me a little thrill. "This thought is very concerning to me" I may say to my friends. Ah.
Moving on.
Mindy Kaling put together a short essay on Boys and Men that I really enjoyed. Other people seem to put my own thoughts into words so well sometimes. I'll share an excerpt with you.

"Men know what they want. Men own alarm clocks. Men sleep on a mattress that isn’t on the floor. Men buy new shampoo instead of adding water to a nearly empty bottle of shampoo. Men make reservations. Men go in for a kiss without giving you some long preamble about how they’re thinking of kissing you. Men wear clothes that have never been worn by anyone else before.

OK, maybe men aren’t exactly like this. But this is what I’ve cobbled together from the handful of men I know or know of, ranging from Heathcliff Huxtable to Theodore Roosevelt to my dad. The point: Men know what they want, and that is scary.

What I was used to was boys.

Boys are adorable. Boys trail off their sentences in an appealing way. Boys get haircuts from their roommate, who “totally knows how to cut hair.” Boys can pack up their whole life and move to Brooklyn for a gig if they need to. Boys have “gigs.” Boys are broke. And when they do have money, they spend it on a trip to Colorado to see a music festival."

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I agree with Mindy Kaling on a lot of things. Although I would have chosen men like Jimmy Stewart to George Clooney to my Dad. But that's nothing important. 

What I'm trying to say here is...  I need a man. I need a courageous, hardworking, caring, handsome man. Who knows what he wants. That seems to be an important key. I loved loved loved the scene in "It's a Wonderful Life" where George Bailey tells Mary that he doesn't want any plastics or ground floors and that he doesn't want to get married ever! To anyone! But the fact that he knew that he wanted Mary the most and was willing to give it up for her... that's a Man kind of thing to do. 

Well. There you have it. Know any Men like Jimmy Stewart? Send them my way.

p.s. wow. 2012.